Please help? How?

There’s only one good path here, and you already know what it is, I assume. Break up with him because you’re not getting what you want.

Sometimes breakups are easier when a one or more people can say, “I don’t want you anymore. I’m not attracted to you. I’ve moved on.” I acknowledge that what I’m suggesting for you is more complicated. You do want each other. You enjoy each other’s attention in some way, and you could continue on as you are, waiting to see what he wants after he gets into schools.

It would be more simple if he said, “I’m walking away from you because I can’t be your committed significant other,” but he’s not going to do that. Instead, he’s given you all the information you need to make that decision.

A breakup would feel sad and uncomfortable at first – and maybe for a long while – but there would be so many more chances for happiness. There are new/different people out there. There are fun experiences waiting for you.

I’d rather play a game on my phone than spend hours wishing someone would want more of me.

Turn him back into a real ex. It’s time.

– Meredith