Should I text again?

Monday | December 4, 2023

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Should I text again?

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Met a lovely, young, attractive Dominican woman in a public social setting where we chatted at length primarily in Spanish, although English is my first language. I stumbled at times with proper translations and interpretations. We both had a good laugh at some of my mispronunciations, and she seemed slightly entertained with my errors.

At the end of our soirée, we exchanged telephone numbers, hugged, and agreed to talk again later.

Fast forward to this morning. I checked my cell phone and found there was a missed telephone call from her. I went online and used an English-to-Spanish translator application and sent her, what I thought, was a grammatically correct text-message written in Spanish.

She never replied.

Should I send her another text or perhaps call her using only English?

Should I reach out to her in Spanish even if my verbiage is incorrect?

Or should I abandon this pursuit?

– Lost in Translation

Did your text say you’d like to take her out on a date? If not, send another, asking her out for coffee. Tell her it was lovely to meet her and you’d like to see her again, if she’s interested.

If she speaks English, you can try this in your native language so you don’t mess it up. It’s also a simple question, so I think it would be a simple translation. “Would you like to meet up for coffee soon?” I think you can manage that one in either language.

You can also do this with an actual phone call. Use whatever path of communication feels most natural to you. For the record, she probably butt-dialed you, but that’s OK.

Maybe you did extend an invitation with that first text, but I fear you said something cute and left it at that. You seem a little passive about this entire experience. You exchanged numbers, but it took the missed call for you to reach out. (Maybe the call came the very next day, but … I’m not sure.)

Just make sure you’ve said what you want before you let this go. Clarity is good.

– Meredith

Readers? Another text? A call?

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